tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8259374766532618965.post2609382577546262768..comments2023-06-01T02:27:10.410-07:00Comments on Musings of The Goggin: What's with the lack of penetration?TheGogginhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07167645633395566776noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8259374766532618965.post-24738408942900896142012-09-28T08:48:45.206-07:002012-09-28T08:48:45.206-07:00yup, an old female colleague of mine had a phase o...yup, an old female colleague of mine had a phase of about two years, where she would go out every Saturday night, get drunk, and take a man back to hers. by the time she got back to her flat though, she sobered a bit and thought "well i'll just give them a blowjob", and never have full sex with them.<br /><br />this came to light when we all the "How many?" conversation, and when she said "7", we all screamed "Liar!", and she explained the above story. "ok, so INCLUDING the ones you only ever gave blowjobs too, how many .. ". "oh, i dunno. About 200?" Uh huu....<br />A few seconds ago ยท LikeUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16747988619123300786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8259374766532618965.post-78046640850534567972012-09-28T08:20:47.330-07:002012-09-28T08:20:47.330-07:00Totally agree with you on the above. For me, it...Totally agree with you on the above. For me, it's the people who are withholding - not because they prefer non penetrative, but for other reasons. And that's the bit I never get xTheGogginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07167645633395566776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8259374766532618965.post-76070360436718217632012-09-28T08:07:46.182-07:002012-09-28T08:07:46.182-07:00The thing is though, you can come at this from the...The thing is though, you can come at this from the opposite angle - why *do* we think that POV sex is the ultimate in sexual experience? It's completely heteronormative and belies the truth of a lot of people's likes and dislikes about sex, and it hugely reinforces the notion that (hetero, cisgendered, able-bodied) men MUST rate penetrative sex into a vagina as their favourite sexual act. And that just...isn't true for a lot of people. I've been out with men who've liked POV sex but preferred blow jobs, to give the most obvious example. Likewise for me, I love POV sex, but it's pretty unlikely to make me come - to do that I need fingers and/or tongue (preferably both). If we're striving towards having good, honest sex, then we have to be honest about what we actually want (here I agree with you), but what if that genuinely isn't POV sex? I think a lot of women who 'withhold' penetration might be doing it because they know it's never gonna get them off - so why bother - especially if it is a one-night stand? Not wanting to be penetrated doesn't necessarily translate into prudishness, or not liking sex. It can be just another sexual preference, and if you're with a partner with whom you've got mutual respect, he or she will understand that. Redhaired Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05308020508270864781noreply@blogger.com